Illinois child support attorney, Illinois family law attorney, Illinois divorce lawyer,There is no denying that going through a divorce can be a very trying time in life. Many people benefit from discussing their feelings with friends or a mental health professional. However, the growth in popularity of social media has led to an increase in the use of online postings as a way to vent about their spouse and relieve frustration.

Some Social Media Don’ts

While airing your feelings and frustrations about your divorce or your soon-to-be-ex may feel liberating, it can result in negative consequences. Consider these tips and strategies for social media use prior to, during and after a divorce to avoid causing yourself or others further harm.

  • Do not jump the gun. Changing your “relationship status” too early in the process can take your partner by surprise, especially if the possibility of a divorce was never previously discussed. It might also give your spouse the chance to hide assets or do other things that could hinder your opportunity for an equitable divorce decree.
  • Posting negative comments about your spouse may result in mutual friends feeling like they have to choose sides. It can also have the effect of portraying you as spiteful and petty.
  • Some social media users are notorious for oversharing. The intimate and personal details of your marriage and pending divorce should remain just that, personal.
  • Statements or images on social media that you make public could be used against you in a custody hearing.
  • Avoid the temptation to spy on your spouse by “stalking” them on social media. This often has the ability to anger and frustrate the one doing the snooping. Even when the divorce is final, it can be hard to move on if you continue to visit your ex’s Facebook account.
  • Blocking your ex from all your accounts can appear just as petty. Unless you feel that person is using the information you post for vengeful purposes, sometimes taking the high road can feel pretty good. However, there are ways to limit access without completing blocking another user.

Rely on the Professional Services of a Knowledgeable Aurora Divorce Lawyer

To prevent yourself from allowing emotions to blur the level-headed and logical pursuit of a divorce, hiring a knowledgeable DuPage County divorce lawyer with years of successful experience can ensure you follow proper protocols and legal channels. The Law Office of Matthew M. Williams, P.C. provides advice and guidance based on years of experience and help from knowledgeable resources to pursue an equitable divorce decree. Contact their offices to set up a free initial consultation.

 

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https://www.prevention.com/sex/social-media-mistakes-during-divorce

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Illinois custody attorney, Illinois family law attorney, Illinois divorce lawyer,When married couples divorce it is not uncommon for possessions accumulated during the marriage to become subject to division. In addition to cars, homes, accumulated wealth and even time with children, it may happen that even the friends you had during your marriage may suddenly no longer answer your phone calls.

Time for New Social Circles

Even those people who you thought were your best friends may no longer have time for you, or perhaps even took the side of your ex-spouse following a divorce. While that can be unsettling, this time in your life can become an opportunity for finding and making new friends. This will not always be easy, especially if your former spouse was the one in the relationship who initiated the friendships you maintained as a couple. However, now you have the chance to surround yourself with the type of people with whom you truly enjoy spending time.

  • Take time to determine what it is you want to get out of a new friendship. Since you no longer have a spouse to consider, there may be an opportunity to get to know people with whom your ex-spouse might not have otherwise associated.
  • Go to new places. Try new things. If you always wanted to join a gym then do it. Go to clubs and listen to music, or visit museums if that is what you like. It is at these kinds of place you may meet others who share your interests and could become your new friends.
  • Do not immediately discount old friends. Some may take awhile to come around, and some who you thought were long gone may suddenly reappear.
  • Along those same lines, take time to seek out old friends who you just drifted apart from over time and for no particular reason. Who knows, they may be just as happy to hear from you.
  • Divorce does not have to be the common link between you and your new friends, but it does happen. Support groups and other divorced-singles organizations offer great opportunity to meet others with whom you share something in common.

Once you learn to exert your independence, making new friends will become easier.

Retain a Knowledgeable Illinois Divorce Attorney

Going through a divorce is stressful and emotional. For those reasons, and many others that include the complexities of Illinois divorce law, it is important to find an experienced and knowledgeable DuPage County divorce lawyer who can represent your interests. The Law Offices of Matthew M. Williams, P.C. provide thorough review of your divorce case in an effort to ensure you receive everything to which you are entitled. Call their offices today to schedule an initial consultation.

 

Sources:

https://www.webpsychology.com/news/2015/06/12/claiming-your-social-independence-after-divorce-220196

https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/splitopia/201505/how-rebuild-your-social-circle-after-split

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Illinois custody attorney, Illinois family law attorney, Illinois divorce lawyer,For some people, the divorce experience is fraught with stress, uncertainty, dread and other feelings of ill will. It did not start out that way, but once reality sets in and attorneys begin discussing the matters of custody, asset division and other financial issues it is not uncommon for bad feelings to surface.

Handling the Worst a Divorce Has to Offer

Fears of being “taken to the cleaners” can cause a person to lose sleep, become bitter and even react overly aggressive in a situation when calm behavior might be best. When you dread getting out of bed because you have to go meet your ex-spouse and their attorney it can have a negative effect on others areas of your life. Perhaps consider this routine to get a grip of your concerns and create a plan to control your emotions.

  • Step 1: Write down the worst outcome(s) of the divorce you can imagine. Many fear being left broke and in debt, stuck in what seems like a never-ending divorce, and without a meaningful relationship with their children.
  • Step 2: Write down what you would do in the event these events actually occur. How can you overcome being in debt? What can you do to ensure a lasting relationship with your children? How can you help move the divorce process along to a speedy and amicable conclusion?
  • Step 3: Write down a list of the people on whom you can rely for help and support. If your worst fears involve money, write down the name of someone who can help you manage your finances. If you think the divorce will leave you without a place to live, write down the name of a realtor you know. The idea is to remind yourself that no one has to go through this all by themselves.

Completing the steps can have one of two desirable effects. One would be that you might realize that many of these worst-case scenario fears are unfounded. The second would that, in the event one of these scenarios comes true, you have a plan and friend to help you overcome it.

Rely on an Experienced Aurora Divorce Attorney to Help Avoid Disaster

The stress and anxiety that often accompanies a divorce have the ability to turn what was an amicable split at first into a contentious and bitter battle.  A knowledgeable Aurora divorce lawyer who understands the emotional strain of divorce can help you through the process. Contact the Law Offices of Matthew M. Williams, P.C. to schedule an initial consultation during which you can ask questions and discuss possible options.

 

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http://survivingyoursplit.com/divorce-whats-the-worst-that-could-happen/

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divorce-adviceWhen considering a divorce, or while you are going through this highly emotional and stressful experience, perhaps the last thing anyone wants to hear is a lot of advice about how to handle the whole process. A divorce is a very personal matter. It would be rare that any two divorces are exactly alike, so it is unlikely that advice from one will fit the needs of another.

Do What is Best for You

No one knows or understands your marriage experience better than you, so applying the advice of others to a very personal matter, such as a divorce, may prove to be quite counterproductive. Here is a sample of some advice that might be right for some, but could be considered quite bad depending on an individual’s circumstances. If you hear this advice from friends or family, proceed with caution.

  • Separate as soon as possible and cut off all contact. Not only will this create an adversarial relationship with your spouse, but also could negatively impact your relationship with your children.
  • Start dating immediately. It might be better to give yourself time to heal, before diving into the next relationship. Get to know yourself again as a single before starting a new relationship.
  • Wait at least one year before dating. While sounding contradictory to the point listed above, understand that people deal with matters at different rates. You are ready when you are ready.
  • Ban your ex-husband (ex-wife) from your home. This might feel powerful, but it can have a negative effect on your children.
  • Don’t get remarried. Just because you (or the person offering this advice) had a bad marriage does not mean a second marriage will not last.
  • Stop feeling sorry for yourself and just move on. Everyone deals with and processes the resentment, anger and other emotions that accompany divorce at their own pace.
  • Time to get out there and find Mr. (or Mrs.) Right before it is too late. Once again, it is important to set your schedule and take on a new relationship when you are ready. If it turns out you are never ready, well that is just fine.

Retain the Counsel of a Knowledgeable Aurora Divorce Attorney

To help you through the time-consuming and emotionally charged divorce process it is best to work with an attorney who has a history of successfully navigating divorce courts and family law. An experienced  DuPage County divorce lawyer will provide the resources necessary to guide you through a divorce while limiting anxiety and legal exposure. To schedule an initial consultation contact the Law Offices of Matthew M. Williams, P.C. and learn how working with an experienced divorce attorney can benefit you.

 

Sources:

https://www.huffingtonpost.com/jackie-pilossoph/the-worst-divorce-advice-_b_8067600.html

https://www.huffingtonpost.com/entry/10-pieces-of-really-bad-divorce-advice_us_57c6ccbce4b07addc40ff692

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