Illinois custody attorney, Illinois family law attorney, Illinois divorce lawyer,The effects of divorce can ripple outward and impact family members, not just in their personal lives, but in every aspect of their daily routine. The consequences of a divorce on children are widely accepted, and behavior and performance at school are among those concerns. Knowing some strategies to deal with school-related issues can allow a parent to help their child(ren) when it is needed most.

How Can a Divorced Parent Help Their Child at School?

After a divorce your life is different, and you are dealing with issues that perhaps were handled previously by your spouse. One of the areas you may need to become more involved in the educational experience of your child. Here are some ideas you may find helpful.

  • Talk to the teachers. Most schools send a schedule, with teachers’ names, home before school starts. Call or Email each one with a quick “heads up” about the divorce, especially if it is recent. Spare them the details, but ask the teacher to stay in touch should they notice any issues.
  • When it comes to the education of your children, vow to keep open the lines of communication with your ex-spouse. Freezing out your ex never benefits your child.
  • Make an effort to attend Parent-Teacher Conferences together. It is easier to understand what is happening and make a plan of action, if necessary, when you both hear a teacher’s report at the same time.
  • Keep a shared calendar. In addition to the school-issued calendar, use an app or some other electronic calendar to help you both keep track of assignment due dates, concerts, games and other special events at the school.
  • Discuss school projects and plan who will take the lead in providing assistance or keeping track of progress to ensure a satisfactory grade.
  • Be proactive and remember this is not about you. If grades slip or behavior becomes an issue, meet with school personnel and avoid placing blame on the other parent.

Secure Reliable Counsel from an Experienced Aurora Divorce Lawyer

When dealing with divorce it is important to work with an attorney who understands the full impact of the process, including the effect it will have on children and their education. Work with a DuPage County Illinois divorce attorney with the knowledge and resources you need to protect you and the future of the children in your custody. Rely on the Law Offices of Matthew M. William, P.C., to put your needs and those of your children at the forefront of your case in securing a fair and equitable divorce decree. Schedule an initial consultation to learn more about the divorce process.

 

Sources:

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/entry/eight-tips-for-co-parenting-through-the-school-year_us_59a95e4ce4b0c50640cd5ebc

https://www.ourfamilywizard.com/blog/five-new-school-year-tips-divorced-parents

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Illinois custody attorney, Illinois family law attorney, Illinois divorce lawyer,When going through or dealing with the aftermath of a divorce those affected may attempt to keep the other segments of their life as normal as possible. In many cases, this means trying to prevent the emotion and anxiety of the divorce from seeping into and impacting one’s work. It is not always easy, but maintaining a steady and consistent work environment can help a person get through their divorce.

Getting Through the Work Day

The stress of your marriage breaking up can have a negative effect on your work performance. You can do everything in your power to keep things on an even keel, but here are a few ideas to help you maintain good productivity at work.

  1. Let your boss know what is happening. It would be okay to have a private conversation with your supervisor to let him or her know that is going on with your marriage. Ask for some flexibility when it comes to meeting with your attorney.
  2. If you work with a partner or within a team, let them know what you are going through. They can offer some emotional support as well as work support. This also prevents them from thinking you are slacking off for no good reason.
  3. Do your best to keep missed days and time off to a minimum.
  4. Do not make your divorce the topic of every office conversation. Leave that at home whenever possible and allow your work to provide a nice distraction from that stressful situation.
  5. Accept that your productivity may lag from time to time, but make the effort to put in extra time whenever your schedule and energy level allows it.
  6. Keep the calls, emails, texts, and other communication from your (soon-to-be) ex-spouse to a minimum as best you can. Do your best to keep divorce matters separate from work matters.
  7. Do not allow work to become your sole escape. While matters at work can provide a nice distraction from the stress and anxiety of a divorce, be sure to leave time for other outlets such as movies, dinner out with friends and other escapes.

Retain an Experienced and Detail-Oriented Illinois Divorce Lawyer

When the time comes to deal with an impending divorce it is important to work with a legal professional who possesses the knowledge and experience to help you deal with the stress, anxiety, negotiations, and hearings. To ensure you have someone in your corner who will fight for your rights, get the help of a knowledgeable DuPage County divorce attorney.  The Law Offices of Matthew M. William, P.C. handles all divorce-related matters. Contact the office to schedule an initial consultation.

Sources:

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/entry/dealing-with-divorce-in-the-workplace_us_599735fce4b033e0fbdec3b4

http://www.divorceandchildren.com/managing-work-when-you-are-getting-a-divorce/

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Illinois custody attorney, Illinois family law attorney, Illinois divorce lawyer,When a couple is preparing for or going through a contentious divorce it happens that one spouse may attempt to hide assets, run up debt or sell off property in an effort to cheat the other from what might otherwise be a fair split of marital assets. You can prevent this “win at all costs” strategy by taking steps to protect marital assets.

Establish a Plan Before a Divorce Occurs

There are steps you can take, although one must proceed with caution while doing so, to protect marital assets from dissipation:

  • Take personal property out of the home and storing it with a trusted friend or separate location.  This is easier than attempting to recover property from your spouse’s possession after divorce proceedings have started.
  • Open a separate bank account, but be very careful not to take more than your fair share of the value of marital property, or you can find yourself charged with the very thing you were trying to avoid – asset dissipation.
  • Obtain a protective order for property. Much like a temporary restraining order, the protective order for property is issued by a court and legally safeguards your assets. With the help of an experienced attorney, this can be achieved without letting your spouse know you are taking steps to protect the property.

What Can Be Done If You Are Too Late?

If you discover that dissipation of marital assets has already begun, there are steps you can take to regain the lost value. If dissipation occurs despite a protective order of property being in place, the court can provide relief after the fact.

A judge may reduce the amount awarded the offending spouse that amount which was taken during dissipation activities. However, if the item stolen had sentimental value as well as monetary value, the amount may not make up for the emotional loss experienced.

Work with a Knowledgeable DuPage County Asset Dissipation Attorney

Whether you have taken steps to protect marital assets prior to divorce proceedings or suspect your spouse is siphoning value illegally from shared property, it is important that you get in touch with an experienced DuPage County divorce and asset dissipation lawyer. When you retain the services of the Law Offices of Matthew M. William, P.C., you can be confident the work provided will result in a satisfactory division of property and assets. Call or contact the office soon to get answers to all your questions.

 

Source:

https://www.cnbc.com/2016/01/17/breaking-up-is-hard-to-do-protecting-assets-in-divorce.html

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Illinois custody attorney, Illinois family law attorney, Illinois divorce lawyer,After going through the stress and expense of a divorce, the last thing on the mind of many adults is getting into a new relationship. However, for some divorced spouses, the desire to find a new partner is high on their list of things to do after getting out of a failed marriage. Just as no two divorces are alike, the reasons for getting into or avoiding a new relationship are just as varied.

Avoid Making the Same Mistakes

If you are intent on getting into a new relationship following your divorce, it may be important to take stock of the things that ended your marriage and strive to prevent those same issues from damaging future relationships. Other pitfalls to avoid include:

  • Do not get in the habit of thinking all men (or women) are just like your ex-spouse. Sure, all men and all women share certain traits, but be honest with yourself and fair to potential suitors by giving others a chance to prove they can be a good partner.
  • Avoid the “rebound” relationship. This is a result of feeling lonely and simply getting into a relationship to fill a void in your life. It’s not healthy for you and not fair to your partner. If you want a lasting relationship, be sure the other person has traits, values, and interests that you would feel good sharing for the long term.
  • Let go of your baggage. Do not dwell on the past. Take stock of your own behavior and make attempts to repair those habits that may have contributed to the end of your marriage.

Signs of a Good Relationship

Here are a few things to look for in a good, post-divorce relationship:

  • If applicable, the other person places the needs of their children first.
  • The relationship with the ex-spouse is free of drama and discourse.
  • Both partners are clear about their intentions for the new relationship.
  • Signs of affection are honest and easily expressed.
  • Alcohol and TV viewing ARE NOT the main sources of entertainment or escape.
  • The evolution of the relationship to include a sexual component does not change the overall tone of the relationship.

Go through Your Divorce with an Experienced Aurora Divorce Attorney

The only way to ensure your rights and assets are protected as you go through divorce proceedings is to retain the counsel of a knowledgeable DuPage County divorce lawyer. From initial filings throughout negotiations and until the final divorce decree is issued, the Law Offices of Matthew M. William, P.C. provide thorough representation throughout every stage of a divorce. Contact the office to schedule a meeting today.

 

Sources:

http://www.yourtango.com/experts/kimberly-pryor/3-post-divorce-dating-dangers-avoid-expert

https://goodmenproject.com/featured-content/seven-signs-healthy-post-divorce-relationship-jmac/

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